1. Why can't two leaders that are not married lead a co-ed group?

Due to the nature of the role, the elders of the church, believe it is unwise to have a male and female, who are not married, lead together. Having a non-married couple lead together, both add a layer of complexity and promotes unhealthy practices as the individuals would need to have ongoing one-on-one discussions concerning the health of the group and its participants. As well, both not being married causes complexity in who would be the "principal" leader of the group. This added layer could potentially cause strain and contention. In addition, we believe that having a married couple lead together provides a healthy, biblical model, of co-leadership and co-discipleship similar to Priscilla and Aquila seen in Acts 18.   > top of page

2. What does co-ed leadership look like?

Co-ed leadership happens when a husband and wife lead together as a team. A great example of this dynamic is seen in the life of Aquila and Priscilla in Acts 18, 1 Corinthians 16, 2 Timothy 4. Each couple is a living example of Christ and his church outlined in Ephesians 5. The husband is the head and the wife is in submission to his authority. Therefore, the male is the principal leader of the group. Each is supportive of one another and each is in submission to Jesus. They discuss the overall health of the group together, address issues together as they arise and they pray for their group together. The wife is able to facilitate co-ed discussion with the help of her husband.   top of page

3. Will women be expected to have back up leaders? If not, how will the group look if the leading woman misses?

In a co-ed leadership situation, if the wife is unable to help lead then the discussion would remain co-ed. The husband would lead the group discussion and instead of going into their subgroups they would remain one large group.   top of page

4. Will women have coaches?

Yes. Our plan is to create a coaching structure for women leaders. However, this structure is still in development as women coaches need to be identified and equipped.   top of page

5. Will future training be available to both men and women leaders?

Yes. Both current and future training will be available to both men and women leaders.   top of page

6. Why are we segregating men and women e.g., we enjoy hearing and learning from another gender. Will there be the opportunity for co-ed discussion?

We believe that greatest depth of discussion is in subgroups of 3 to 6 adults. Our goal is creating gender specific discussions is to provide an opportunity for people of the same gender to share concerns, struggles, fears with one another safely and without hindrance or fear. We also want to encourage appropriate, gender specific, discipling relationships from within the group. Where males are engaging and building relationships with other males. And likewise, where women are engaging and building relationships with other women. Each supporting one another and building one another up (1 Thes 5:9-11). With that said, there will be opportunities for co-ed discussion, both in the Fall and future gatherings. Direction will be provided as to when those times are best, given the topic or subject matter.   top of page

7. Can someone attend a co-ed group with their spouse and lead a gender specific group another time or day?

Yes. Though it does add to the person's commitments. They are more than welcome to attend a co-ed group with their spouse and lead another group at a different time. However, we do discourage people from attending multiple groups if they are not leading one. For example, if a couple attends a group together, then one or both attend an additional, gender specific, group separately and are not leading either.   top of page

8. How do we ensure the biblical text that young believers should be learning from mature believers? e.g., if younger singles tend to go to all male or all female.

As a prerequisite, each leader of a Discipleship Group should be a mature follower of Christ and be a model of what it means to live for Jesus to those in their group. That leader then champions discipleship among the participants where they then help one another live for Jesus. In addition, this Fall, through the Disciplemaker initiative, we will be equipping each participant with skills that will cultivate maturity and enable each person to be a disciplemaker.   top of page

9. How do we ensure that both the women and men are a good "match" for discipleship?

I don’t believe we should over strategize the pairing of individuals. However, the leader of a group has the ability to suggest certain match-ups among the group participants. Our desire is that everyone has an opportunity to be in a discipling relationship which may or may not be based on affinity.   top of page

10. How closely do folks need to stick to the discussion questions?

Very close. Throughout the Fall cycle, we will be going through purposed content that ties directly and builds upon the Sunday sermon. It’s is crucial that each group follow the guided format and questions provided. Please see below for what groups will be doing after the Fall.   top of page

11. How should I respond to someone who already went through a version of disciple equip-type training and might not see DGs as necessary?

I would remind them of our mission and vision as a church. That our mission is to “go make disciples” and our vision is to "impact every city and neighborhood in the South Puget Sound with the gospel". This is a lifelong effort and we believe it’s God’s desire for us as his people. So this Fall will be a church wide effort but it is what we will be doing for the long term. You could also invite them to consider leading a group. Share how this is an opportunity to be part of a movement and help other grow in their faith.   top of page

12. Are we doing Discipleship Groups for 10 weeks or indefinitely? What will we do in the DG after the 10-week training is completed?

Yes. Our small groups ministry at Resurrection Church will be Discipleship Groups indefinitely. One of the primary methods we have for living out our vision and mission is through these gatherings. Our conviction is that each person should be discipled and discipling others. As well, that discipleship happens in small group gathers. So, in January, we will continue having sermon-based discussions, but with greater emphasis on discipleship and challenging one another to live for Jesus in all of life. We will continue to build our catalog of apprenticeship modules and will have those available for leaders after the Fall. Each leader will be required to go through at least 2 apprentice modules with their group per 10-week cycle. We are also considering other studies that groups might go through after the Fall, but none have been approved as of yet.   top of page