Advent Doesn’t Have To Be Perfect

Blog by Lisa Collins


Now that week one of our Advent celebration is in the books, you are probably seeing what works for you and your family when it comes to gathering to read God’s word and discussing the meaning of Advent, and the symbolism of the candles and wreath. As a homeschooling mom, I know that “what works” can also change day by day. The Advent Family Guide is here to help you even if you can only read one section and light the candle, you’ve done enough! Remember that Jesus is always present no matter how perfect it looks, and your children will remember the moment no matter how perfect it looks as well.

As my family and I went through the guide this week, I had one kid climbing on my back, while my oldest was climbing on my lap, and another slowly sliding under the table to escape.

I felt myself getting frustrated and wanting to quit. The sink was full of dishes and my floors were dirty, I had too many other things to do. Then I remembered a recent time during a similar situation, when God whispered in my ear “embrace the chaos.” So I decided to push through the frustrations. I let my toddler hang on my back for a moment longer; I let my 7 year old sit on my lap but with the job of holding the Advent Guide and having to read a few lines; and I told the sneaky one to grab pens and paper and draw while we read. We may not have finished all the way through, but my kids heard the good news of Jesus coming and how we have HOPE that He will come again!

We can only do our best with the chaos that is raising children and the little chunks of time available in a day, but isn’t time with Jesus always so worth it?! Whether this is your first time celebrating Advent with your children or a seasoned pro, if your bible study time isn’t looking perfect or how you imagined the moment would go, pause, take a deep breath and give yourself some grace and know that God will equip you to do enough.  

The reason for the Advent season is to rejoice that God became flesh and dwelt among us, so celebrate! One fun idea is to find any instruments in your house and play the songs provided in your R-Kids Advent Family Guide, hook up that bluetooth speaker, turn up the volume and make a joyful noise! My kids love singing hymns aloud while banging on their bongos, strumming a ukulele or clanging cymbals together. Not only is this fun for them, but the lyrics center our hearts on Christ, and the jam sesh gets the wiggles out making the readings go a lot smoother!


Week Two: Love

This week we get to light the second purple candle read about how God loves us by sending His Son, born as a baby, to save us from our sins. To love is to be vulnerable, and I don’t know of anything more vulnerable than an infant. Dorothy Sayers wrote, “For whatever reason, God chose to make man as he is—limited and suffering and subject to sorrow and death—he (God) had the honesty and the courage to take his own medicine…He has himself has gone through the whole human experience, from the trivial irritations of family life…to the worst horrors of pain and humiliation, defeat, despair and death.”

God loves you so much that He wanted to be relatable and vulnerable so you would know that you could be vulnerable with Him. Go to Him this week and take the mess and chaos with you and learn about how God shows us His love through the Advent season.